What are you talking about? I don't base all my voting on what my candidates like to fuck or what gender they identify with or what the color of their skin is and nobody else should either. I only care if they want to make my life harder or not and sadly where I live, that's usually the case(California).
My point is that the vast majority of humans are straight and their gender matches their sex. The vast majority. It's the baseline we measure variance from. There's nothing wrong with a norm.
The problems come when the norm is made to be exclusive. You push out all the variance. I have a problem with that.
However, I have a problem with pushing the other way by asserting there is no norm because there is. That push back makes people feel threatened. It doesn't matter if it's rational or not. When people feel threatened they push back harder.
There's a certain practicality with how we handle a lot of these issues that's getting lost with some of the ridiculous demands, namely in our language.
I apologize if we're not on the same page here, but I tend to take a more inclusive approach to handling these issues. Instead of railing on people for being bigots, I prefer to give them respect and dignity so that I may persuade them to see it in another way. For a lot of people all they want is to be heard and have their thoughts respected no matter how wrong you find them to be.
A bit of another anecdote for me, but I remember when I was a teenager and going to Nebraska for a family reunion. Couple hundred people and it was pretty cool. They like their polka, booze, and meat. One of my cousins was pretty adamant in his stance against homosexuality. I had an hour long conversation about it. I didn't change his mind, but in the end he shook my hand and said "Thank you for letting me talk. Maybe I'm just bullheaded, I don't know." Didn't change his mind, but I got him to at least think and consider. Maybe he has changed his mind today, I don't know, but if I had just gone off at him and called him a bigot and shit, maybe he wouldn't have even given it a thought and just shut down completely which is what happens when we become hostile. We stop thinking.
So that's just my take on it.